I was having coffee with a good friend of mine the other day, and we were talking about what stops people from really taking on change. Fear of failure or fear of success
seems like the obvious answers, right? Is it really the fear of failure or success? Let’s chat about that for a moment. The conversation with my friend reminded me of the power of our belief system and what responsibility really is, and that with a good look and an action plan, we can accomplish anything!
Now strap in people, I’m going to share what I have learned
along the way and it just might make you go hmm! Fear of success is really fear of R E S P O N S I B I L I T Y. Are we really afraid of success? I don’t think so! If you think about it, when we step into change it brings about new responsibilities and that’s when our belief system
starts having a field day with us! Fear can trigger all sorts of doubts. When we take on something new or something more, or something different, can we handle the
responsibility? I say YES WE CAN! It is a matter of looking at capabilities, competencies, and commitment.
Responsibility consists of the ability to respond to what
is happening. As a coach, I ask my clients to look here when they are stuck. Do they have the capabilities? Are they competent? If the answer is no, then we explore what is wanted and needed to become more proficient. What resources are available? This leads to action. We also take a look at commitment, because with a high level of commitment toward what they want, it is amazing how
they will stretch and what they will overcome to make
So, the next time you or someone you know says they have a fear of failure or success – challenge it! Because you deserve success, it’s nothing to be afraid of!
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