Episode 006
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Does anyone still feel like they are on a teeter totter of being motivated to move vs what is actually happening during Covid-19? As the world begins to re-open bit by bit, it’s like coming out of some sort of hibernation in some ways. 

The constant posts from “this is the time to do more, be more, create more” to “don’t buy into the you need to be more” posts are enough to make one dizzy. Which way do we go? 

There is meaning we will all make up for ourselves or have made up for ourselves during this time, and we will at some level reinvent, contribute, come out different in some way. Bottom line, wherever you are in the matter is wherever you are supposed to be. Trust that and trust yourself. 
During this episode we will explore creating yourself vs. finding yourself.  It’s about choice and action all along the way. 

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{0:55} Being who you are authentically
{4:21} Wanting someone else’s life
{7:51} Having the power to choose and act
{12:14} Leaning in to your Champion
{15:01} Taking responsibility for who and where we are
{17:40} Some helpful daily practices

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Episode 005
With Guest: Bradley Mobeck

Whether you are an Entrepreneur, leader, professional, or a self-improvement seeker this episode will assist you in the distinction between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset.  

We will explore the power of a growth mindset in this episode through listening to my very special guest, Brad Mobeck.  He is my son, and a college graduate of the Class of 2020, and one of my greatest teachers.  

Brad will share his story from being diagnosed with an auditory processing disorder in the 3rd grade to graduating college and heading to dental school.  

Your mindset determines your success and goes hand in hand with the power of choice.  When I talk about success, I mean what you choose is success, not what someone else defines as your success.  

Brad and I also have messages for the Class of 2020, who are very near and dear to our heart and I believe will make a huge impact in our world.

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Here are the highlights from this episode:

{2:37} The distinction between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset
{3:27} Introduction to Brad Mobeck
{6:14} How mindset supported Brad in having a growth mindset
{7:47} Not arguing for your limitations
{16:04} Flipping a quarter to flip your attitude
{18:27} Brad’s message to the class of 2020

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Episode 004: 
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Have you ever felt like a fraud?  Do you doubt your capabilities? Most of us have, as a matter of fact. Anytime we are stretching outside of our comfort zone or hitting the next level in our lives. The question here is, are we a fraud really?  Or are we doubting who we really are, and who we are for people, our purpose in life, and what we have to contribute?  I believe in my whole heart we are not frauds, we are human beings having a human experience, and therefore it is natural we are going to argue for limitations from time to time. 

In this episode we are continuing to explore the power of choice where we take on overcoming the Imposter by leaning into our Champion.  As entrepreneurs, leaders, professionals and self-improvement seekers have you taken the time to get familiar with your champion?  And by the way who is this champion anyway?  The champion argues for our greatness even on days we aren’t feeling it! NOW your champion is not smoke and mirrors, your champion is in fact telling you the very truth you are resisting.  Your champ wants you to get “you’ve got this” and 100% believes in CONFIDENCE BEFORE COMPETENCE!! 

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Here are the highlights from this episode:
{2:13} Do you ever feel like a fraud?
{4:18} Imposter Syndrome
{5:13) 4 Signs that Imposter Syndrome is present
13:41} Henry Ford quote
{17:13} Visualizing success
{23:33} What does your imposter look like?
{25:39} What does your champion look like?

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Episode 003

One of my favorite quotes that reminds me attitude is everything and is something that we are 100% free to choose each and every moment is this, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – VIKTOR FRANKL  

In this episode, we will continue to explore the power of choice! Today it is all about attitude, and how our attitude literally shapes the experiences we are having. This will assist us in taking the lead at work and in our relationships, and we will explore some practice that will assist us in choosing our attitude from our conscious vs. the subconscious so that we are more responsive day to day vs in reaction to our circumstances or in our relationships.
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Get ready entrepreneurs, leaders, professionals and self-improvement seekers! This action-packed episode has powerful questions and action steps in having this key principle assist you in taking the lead in your life both personally and professionally! 

Here are the highlights from this episode:
{1:00} Attitude as a key factor in all life experiences
{2:41} The difference between attitude and mood
{3:35} The first thing to ask yourself
{6:46} Questions to start the day with
{11:07} The power of choosing our attitude
{14:12} Gratitude practice

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Episode 002
With Guest:  Paige Killian

My rock star client Paige Killian of the Mom Organization Motivation Podcast and I thought it would be fun to do a “Crossover” Episode on one of my favorite principles when it comes to taking the lead in your life called “there is no such thing as balance, shoot for harmony! Sure, in banking, physics, the human body, etc there is a balance, but in the business of being human, absolutely no such thing as a destination called balance.
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So, get ready to take the pressure off and discover the power of harmony.  We will also help you to design your harmony checklist, so you can start living this powerful principle today.  
Take the lead in your life and let go of having everything be “perfect” and the illusion of balance.  You can have it all, just not at the same time! Take off the pressure and be happy!

Here are the highlights from this episode:
{2.55} How Kelly and Paige met
{6:51} Shooting for harmony not balance
{10:58} Balance exercise for you
{13:38} Putting yourself at the top of your priorities
{15:01} Setting boundaries
{20:09} Mom guilt

Connect with Paige Killian:
For free resources on getting organized in 3 simple steps, head over to Paige’s website www.everythingwithstyle.com and connect with her on Instagram @everythingwithstylemom. 
You can also find her on The Mom’s Organization Motivation Podcast on iTunes, Spotify, and on her website under the podcast tab. 

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Episode 001

There are “no accidents” in life, what is occurring we may never know the reason; however, we can always find meaning in it.  When we embrace that life happens for us we can stay present, keep out of worry, learn the lessons and contribute to others.

In *our first* episode we will discuss the concept that “Life happens for us, not to us”.  We are all here for a purpose, there is a plan for us, and we get to move through life learning lessons, growing, and being a contribution to others, while responding to the curve Balls that we don’t really plan for and yet, they show up for us.  

This is a powerful episode where we get an opportunity to explore mindset and have a set of questions to evaluate the gifts that the curve balls are really bringing us.

Here are the highlights from this episode if you want to listen along:

{1:44} How we’re all in charge of the experience we’re having
{3:02} Welcoming experiences with curiosity
{6:20} Dealing with life’s curveballs
{8:23} Getting home for my birthday story!Podcast
{15:24} Questions for you
{20:59} The competition!

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If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results.” ~Jack Dixon
 
I have been reflecting a lot about what to write about as we begin the  New Year TODAY, like offering tons of different New Year’s resolutions and tips to stick to them to create lasting change as an example.  But that just didn’t feel authentic to me especially knowing most people give up on their New Year’s resolutions within weeks of declaring them (January 21st to be exact), #watchmework
 
New Year brings on a renewed enthusiasm for creating change, and that’s what I love about ringing in the New Year, because it’s all about possibility, 365 new days, filled with new choices, new intentions backed with intentional action!  #HELLO  That to me, is exciting!  I also love to acknowledge and be grateful for all the blessings that occurred in the previous year, the challenges overcome, and the change and growth that occurred in the process of achieving desired results.  What I’m also saying is that New Year’s resolutions often fail for a reason, because they don’t emerge from true breakthroughs or a commitment to change, they are often results driven by calendar obligations; and they often address the symptoms, not the cause of our wanting them.
 
Some resolutions are smart for our physical and emotional health and well-being. Quitting smoking, losing weight, managing stress better, these are all healthy things. But if we don’t address what underlies our needs to light up, order double bacon cheeseburgers, and worry ourselves into frenzies, will it really help to vow on one arbitrary day to give up everything that helps us pretend we’re fine?  It’s almost like we set ourselves up for failure to avoid addressing the messy stuff.
 
You know the story. Every year, you make grand resolutions. You vow to quit eating sugar, go to the gym five days a week, hit a certain financial goal, and be a nicer person, the list goes on and on. Your heart is in the right place, and you start your year full of optimism. Then comes February, and “try” as you might, you're back to your daily sugar fix, you haven’t been to the gym in a week, and you’re snapping at your co-workers, family, and friends. The cycle is demoralizing, and it leaves you feeling like a failure.
 
Well, guess what? You're not alone, and it’s not your fault. We put a lot of pressure on the New Year to right all our wrongs and finally become the person we want to be, and while that's definitely a worthwhile endeavor, it’s just the way we go about it sets us up for an inevitable downfall, maybe after a month, or two, or perhaps just a week.
 
The secret is #TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF and to set goals that you can actually stick to. Instead of one or two big, grand resolutions, outline a handful of smaller goals that add up to big change, #BE BOLD!  The steps and strategy below are a great place to start, and I promise you that if you stick to these for #90days, you will create that ultimate change you really want 2016, as well bonuses you may not have expected along the way! And, then repeat, each quarter, because this time next year - we will happy dance together!
 
Attitude:  It’s EVERYTHING!  Start the process of change with a positive and healthy attitude. Make as many of your declarations with clear and positive “I have", "I AM, commitments, as if it is already complete - I call it a DONE DEAL!  I PROMISE YOU, this will give you huge mileage on having it happen.  You will be intentional and back it up with intentional and specific action!  #itsadonedeal
 
Be specific:  When thinking about the change you want, be as exact as possible. People who set specific goals are more likely to succeed. Remember vague goals = vague results, so be clear! #BOOM
 
Get clear on your purpose:  Along with attitude purpose will be your guide.  It answers the question “why”, why do you want what you want, why is it important to you?  The clearer you are on this the easier it is to overcome ANY obstacle or circumstance that gets in your way! Chocolate-Peanut Butter Ice Cream, #canttouchme
 
Put it in writing:  Write down exactly what you want to achieve and post it in a place where you will see it every day. This will help remind you what you're working toward. When you write, use positive terms. For example, instead of writing, "I will stop eating junk food" re-word your goal in more positive terms, "I make healthy food choices." Notice a pattern here?  All in the positive, and it's how you roll, like on the daily!!
 
Declare it out loud:  Many times we don’t do this because “what if we fail, then everyone will know” – what?  As if!  Let’s change that to “when I succeed, I get to celebrate with all my peeps!!” People are really there to assist you in a win, the best accountability systems I know.
 
Set realistic goals.  When you think about setting goals, make sure that they are within your reach. Be mindful of your finances, schedule, and other personal affairs. Many people forget to think about these important facts and, as a result, they set unrealistic goals for themselves. Time and money are often held as obstacles, but each are actually resources and can be coached to, so don't let them stop you!  Work with a coach, a mentor, an accountability partner, who won't put up with any baloney, turn them into resources vs. barriers.  Get intentional about generating vs. I don't have enough........ #watchuswork
 
Develop an action plan.  Create a timeline with steps toward your goal. Set deadlines for each step and cross them off as you go, and reward your accomplishment. Crossing things off and watching your list get smaller will give you a sense of accomplishment and helps you keep going. Consequences, urgency, momentum = motivation, and only you can motivate YOU!  #getaplan
 
Believe in yourself.  Stay positive about your progress. Remember to share your goal with friends or family members and ask them to help you stay accountable and cheer you on. #letsdothis
 
Seek assistance.  For any goal there are experts out there who have the knowledge and experience to assist you in achieving your goals.  BE a team! Get a coach, a mentor, an accountability partner.  No visionary ever manifested their vision alone, and seriously its much more fun doing things together!  
 
Be flexible.  Keep in mind that setbacks can happen. Don't become discouraged and give up. Your hard work will pay off!  The struggle is real people, and makes it oh so sweet when you slay it!! Lean in to your circle of support, and hit it again!!
 
Reward yourself.  Acknowledge your achievements, even the small ones. Reaching a goal takes work so acknowledge your efforts. Do it LOUD and PROUD, include your support system and acknowledge them too, because together is so much better!!!  It's like a giant dance party, #celebrate
 
Imagine yourself 365 days from now, can you see it, hear it, feel it?  Oh how sweet it is!  So start NOW, each day is a new day to grab the opportunity in front of you and build.  Remember your future self will thank you! The BEST is yet to come! #itsgoingdownforreal
 
So go for it, grab it, and give back! #yessssss

The House of 1000 Mirrors

by: Author Unknown, Japanese Folktale

Long ago in a small, far away village, there was a place known as the House of 1000 Mirrors. A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house. He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles just as warm and friendly. As he left the House, he thought to himself, "This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it often."  

In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to visit the House. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door. When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was horrified to see 1000 little dogs growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, "That is a horrible place, and I will never go back there again."  

All the faces in the world are mirrors. What is the feedback you are receiving and what feedback are you reflecting back to others?  Are you doing it in a way of being in service to others? 

As a leader, we recognize that we deliver feedback and receive it in many different ways. Here's a tip you can apply and practice today from Source Point Training that will assist you in delivering feedback.  We call it the "FORMS" Feedback Model and as you practice this each day, notice the responses you get.  Remember that feedback is a tool to provide awareness; not a torch to make people or results wrong. 

Factual - A factual act, not your interpretation or opinion.
Observable  - If you did not see or personally experience the situation, you are not able to give feedback, it's really just "hearsay." 
Respectful  - Dominated by creating working results and relationships, not characterizations or judgments.
Measurable - Objective reality, "rocks are hard and water is wet", must be backed up with empirical evidence. 
Specific - Not a generalization or assessment; define the specific area or incident in which feedback is being provided. 

So, the next time you would like to "tell someone what you think", use the model above and see what a difference it will be for you and for the recipient of the feedback.

Originally posted in "Source Points" Newsletter, Source Point Training, March 25, 2011.    

In 2004 I got to experience both creating change, and change creating me.  I had spent close to
twenty years in mortgage banking, and learned a lot about working with teams, customer quality, strategic planning, and working with people to stay on track, with a good dose of being in Corporate America.  I always wanted to work with people in some capacity, and remember my Dad telling me as a teenager, “Kelly, you should work with people, you know like a counselor or something.”  Flashback to 2003, I took an opportunity to go back to school and earn my certification in coaching because I was jazzed about the idea of working with people, who were committed to moving forward with their life both personally and professionally.

Now, a funny thing happens when we get clear about what we want in life, and what I did not know is there was big change coming my way. In May of 2004, thirty days to the date of my certification testing, the bank I worked for was purchased and my
position was one of many that had been eliminated. 
Deep breath and now, what was I going to do? 
I’ll never forget one of the best defining moments in my life was illuminated by my husband.  He is
so brilliant and shared this wisdom, “I guess you just got your answer today, time to start coaching!” And with that I graduated and certified as a coach in
June of 2004, and never looked back.  I remember that feeling almost ten years later, you know the feeling you get when you know you are exactly where you are supposed to be?  I believe the change of losing a job, absolutely propelled me moving
forward creating change with hundreds of people over the past ten years, and for that I am grateful.

 My coaching business has given me the opportunity to contribute to my clients creating success. It's the best, being with people in a way that challenges and empowers them to stretch beyond their comfort zone and reach goals they really want, both in business and personally.  Those celebration moments are awesome! I work with my clients to get clear from a place of purpose, vision, and values to create actionable plans with strategies, hold them accountable, and ultimately reach their success.  I love to reframe impossibility to possibility, and create a place to explore, design, and be excited about reaching their goals.  

When I’m not coaching, you can be sure to find me at my son’s baseball games, volunteering, camping with my family, and definitely laughing with my family and friends.  I firmly believe that laughter can shift things so quickly so we practice not taking ourselves so seriously quite regularly. 

"Sometimes we create change and other times change creates us!" So true!  Let me know in the comment section below how I can assist you with a change you may be facing, or share some of your defining moments, I look forward to it.